What Aren't You Saying???

We often think of “I Love You” as being the greatest thing you can say (or hear) in any moment, and immediately feel better.

Everyone’s favorite words, right? But sometimes when marriage gets complicated, there are other “little words” we need to hear and convey to our spouse even more. Here’s the list:

We will be okay.

Let’s pray together about this.

I’ll be the strong one today.

You can do this.

We are gonna get through this.

Let’s just focus on a victory today.

What does God want?

How can I pray for you?

I’m on your side.

Let’s go for a drive/change of scenery.

God can fix this.

I forgive you.

I still love you!

How often do we neglect to be a mouthpiece of mercy and grace in a tough situation?

How many “awkward conversations” could have been made easier with one of these responses?

How often do we revert to emotional chaos, instead of tender words?

I know it’s difficult to say these things when you are hurting or feel attacked. But these are the times we need to control our emotions even more, and let the Lord speak through us some words of hope and encouragement.

The book of Proverbs teaches us that…

“A word fitly spoken Is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭25‬:‭11‬

“Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, Sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16‬:‭24‬

I know the recipient benefits from such a kind response. But did you know that the giver of such a response also benefits greatly? There’s a reward for governing your mouth and commanding your spirit to treat your spouse a Godly way.

Consider this. The health and healing you and your spouse need might be in the words that you aren’t saying.